The Belonging Collective

A blog focused on the research around belonging, connection and relationships in education and their impact on pupil performance and motivation.

You Belong here.

“I have come home at last! This is my real country! I belong here. This is the land I have been looking for all my life, though I never knew it ’til now.” C.S Lewis

“I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.” Maya Angelou

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  • The Day George Surprised Me: How Connection Can Transform Learning.

    The Day George Surprised Me: How Connection Can Transform Learning.

    A guest Blog by Dr. Lorena Franco Very excited to bring you a new guest Blog from educator Dr Lorena Franco, Arkansas. Lorena focuses on how individual empathy and connection can transform the learning experience of an individual, in this case, George. The bell rang, yet George stayed in his seat, pencil in hand, determined…

  • The Time We Give to People Is the Time We Give to Human Flourishing

    The Time We Give to People Is the Time We Give to Human Flourishing

    In a world that races on schedules, deadlines and the constant pull of screens, it’s easy to squeeze people into the margins of our weeks rather than the heart of them. Yet, research from psychology and human development tells us something profound: the quality of our relationships isn’t a luxury — it’s essential to who…

  • Birthdays, Anniversaries….Significance and Love.

    Birthdays, Anniversaries….Significance and Love.

    There’s something deeply human about remembering. Not just facts or tasks, but the dates that mark someone’s life. Birthdays, wedding anniversaries, the day someone got a new job, graduated, or became a parent, the day someone lost a loved one. Remembering these dates is more than calendar-management — it is an outward sign, a gentle…

  • My Top Ten Facts on Belonging

    My Top Ten Facts on Belonging

    An academically researched belonging fact check. In my previous posts — “My Best Bets for Belonging” and “Belonging is the Answer, What’s Your Question” — I explored what belonging means in educational and community contexts, and why it matters. In this blog I want to sharpen that exploration: these are ten research-based facts about belonging…

  • Belonging and the New Ofsted Framework (Part Two)

    Belonging and the New Ofsted Framework (Part Two)

    When “Thrive, Belong, Achieve” Meets the Reality of School Life. When I wrote the original Belonging and the New Ofsted Framework, the updated EIF was still emerging through consultations, early drafts, and the usual cautious optimism. Now it’s here — the Adapted (or Renewed) Framework, released with bold language, warm intentions, and a brand-new mantra:…

  • Sonder

    Sonder

    In my previous blog, The Business of Belonging, I explored Rhodes Perry’s work—particularly as highlighted in his Forbes interview—where he describes the practice of building cultures of belonging with intentionality, humility, and courage. In that piece, Perry briefly references a word that has stayed with me since: Sonder. A word that quietly names something many…

  • A Man Called Ove.

    A Man Called Ove.

    Recently, I have been reading the work of Susan Pinker and reflecting on her clear, humane insistence that the small, face-to-face interactions that make up our daily lives are not trivial niceties but biological necessities. Pinker asks us to notice how conversation, proximity and routine social contact shape cognition, health and resilience; she calls this…

  • Belonging, Glass Ceilings, and the Quiet Architecture of Potential

    Belonging, Glass Ceilings, and the Quiet Architecture of Potential

    We talk about belonging as though it’s always a good thing—warm, grounding, a place to rest your feet and your ideas. In schools, in workplaces, in our friendships, belonging is often presented as the ultimate form of safety. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: belonging can just as easily become a gatekeeper as a gift. It…

  • The Rituals That Root Us.

    The Rituals That Root Us.

    There are days when the world moves too fast.When our minds spin, our feet hover above the ground, and the question returns — Where do I belong? Sometimes, the answer doesn’t come in words.It comes in the lighting of a candle.The pouring of tea.The kneeling down.The touching of earth.The passing of bread.A breath, taken in…

  • Improving Attendance – more than just a statistic.

    Improving Attendance – more than just a statistic.

    A Guest Blog from Olly Jefferies – Headteacher. USJ is a small primary school in the heart of a coastal town. Half of our families are in receipt of the Pupil Premium grant, 54% of pupils are on the SEND register, and 6% have an Education, Health and Care Plan (EHCP). Each of these figures…

“One of the biggest surprises in this research was learning that fitting in and belonging are not the same thing. In fact, fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” Brene Brown.